Why Is He Not Interested In Me?

Dear Michelle Valentine,
I met this great guy a couple of months ago. "John" approached me when I was at a happy hour at an Irish bar downtown. We chatted a while, and ended up staying there until the bar closed! He asked for my phone number, and said he would call me the next day. Well, the next day turned into 4 days, but he apologized and said he travels a lot. In the past couple of months, he's called me only once a week, and we've gone out only once in these 2 months. I haven't dated anyone else because I really like him and we have a lot in common. How can I casually ask him to call me more and/or to see him more often?

Diane, Winter Park

Dear Diane,
I do not know why you are putting your social life on hold for this untouchable "traveling man" who desires to see you but once in a time of two months. If he was truly interested in pursuing you, he would call and see you more often. . . regardless of where he is in the world. The real issue here is your desire to alter his feelings toward you. . . this is something you simply cannot do. I suggest that the next time he calls you, you communicate your feelings to him to see where you stand in this situation (for example, are you just a nice friend for him to talk to when he is lonely on the road, or have you met him at a busy time in his career?) If he is interested, he will certainly get with the program. Occassionally a woman will tell the guy what she wants and he snaps to. One of my girlfriends told her once-every-ten-day dinner companion that she didn't have time for casual dinner, that she wanted to do it or not do it. They just bought a house together. On the other hand, if he is not interested in you as you are in him, please get back out there in the dating scene and meet a man who truly desires being with you.

Amore till next week