She's Moving In!

Dear Michelle Valentine,
I'm a 26-year-old guy who has happily agreed to my girlfriend moving in with me. I'm pretty happy about the whole thing, except for one thing: her spoiled cat. Her cat only eats on top of the kitchen counter (gross), and he only sleeps on this ratty chair (which of course, she's bringing along and plans on putting in our bedroom). I'm going crazy over the idea of this spoiled cat sleeping with us, too! I don't think it's fair she' giving all this attention to a freeloading animal, and I'm the one who really gives her all the attention she needs! How do I handle this situation?

Dan, Orlando

Dear Dan,
Which situation are you seeking help on - that your girlfriend is devoted to her non-attention-seeking feline friend, or that you need help in realizing that she has enough attention to go around for you, too? You say you happily "agreed" to have your girlfriend move in with you, but perhaps you hadn't thought it through very carefully - including the pets. For instance, her companionship around the house sounds like a great idea, but her additional "baggage" she brings is not too desirable to you. By the way, why are you vying so hard for your girl's devoted attention? This is the kind of thing that could be solved with a simple teasing, "I know it's silly but, I miss you when you pet the cat." Maybe you need to reconsider this proposed living arrangement until you can whole-heartedly accept the little "love of her life" into your life, too. Do you not feel you could have some baggage that she is willing to overlook, as well? Your situation is quite workable. . . keep me informed!

Amore till next week