The Break-Up

Dear Michelle Valentine,
I've been having an on-again, off-again relationship with this gorgeous guy, a musician. We bicker constantly (which usually turns into a fight), and we basically don't have the same ideas of what a relationship should be. He is not supportive of listening to my career concerns, and he doesn't hold a strong interest in my family. We have just broken up (again), and I'm wondering if I should go back with him. It's always the same: we fight, we break up, he calls me, he comes over, and we're back to square one. What do you think is going on with me?

Becky, via e-mail

Dear Becky,
If you are with someone who you have put on a pedestal, you need to pay extremely close attention to how you really feel when you are with him. Strong feelings of infatuation can cloud your judgment. A lot of people cannot resist that "magic feeling"; you feel it, and then you're off and running. When you experience chemistry with someone, you connect right away, and before you know it, you're in a relationship. Look at the relationship and truly see if you find any compatibility. Ask yourself this question: "Do I feel nurtured in this relationship?" If your answer is no, you've also answered the question of whether you should stay in the relationship.

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